September 16, 2025

Happy Anniversary Karen and Ember.   YAY!!!!



photo by Amie

I missed the sunset tonight because I was involved with the arrival of Geoff and Marcie.  It's so nice to see them.  They stopped by here first to bring me a really sweet broadside that Marcie did with her father.  It's really up my alley.  She illustrated it and he wrote the poem.



  




Why do I have such a hard time manipulating photos downloaded from my phone?
I did not get to the rookery today.  I barely went outside.  I almost finished the manuscript for the new anthology.  I should feel good about that.  That's a big deal.  I'll feel good about it when I pass it along to Jovonna.   

The truth is the last nine months has been me wrestling with the fact that I have entered the state of being an elder.  I really do realize I have no true concept of what that means or why it is confusing me so.   I've talked a lot about my Mother and how productive she was.  She lasted for 91 years and didn't really give up her drive to be worthwhile, competent, productive until about 10 days before her death when she notified that the end had come.  She thought she was done.  Her heart held on for 10 more days.  She was an amazing role model. Can I redefine what I believe to be productive work in my life as I grow into being an aged woman?
My younger brother just told me I was great, that I was still amazing, that I was still doing all this stuff..  Made my heart sing.  You know this is the guy I called names and who I think I learned how to not respond to being baited from.  But we love each other, thick as thieves.  He's in great shape and is excited about showing Marcie home, a trip around New England.  Really nice. It's nice to see him enter this stage of life with a partner who gets him and who he wants to do things with.   

So, yes, I am struggling, and I'm struggling with knowing what to do now.  But I am extremely grateful for all the beauty and love I am surrounded by.  I'll make sense out of it, it's just taking me a while.




 

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